What is love?

It has been a few days, been busy spending time with Tim and our kids. There is a subject from Christmas Eve with Tim's mom and step dad that I can't get out of my head. Love...what is love? Love is so much more than a feeling. Actually that feeling in the beginning with someone is more so lust and infatuation. If you asked a newlywed couple and a couple married for 50 years what is love? They're answers will be completely different. Both sides of my grandparents have been married over 50 years. My parents I want to say have been married about 37 years and I am currently planning my wedding. In my family it is tradition to play Long Line of Love by Paul Oversteet. I look to my grandparents and parents as mentors. They have always said love is hard work, that you have to fight for it. Now more than ever do I understand that. Practicing your virtues, love is kind, love is patient, love is selfless, love is so many things. But all these things take work. But I tell yah, at the end of every day, when Tim comforts me when I'm upset, spends time with our kids, when we make love, or even just when he wraps his arms around me at night and pulls me close, it makes every ounce of that work pay off. Also others have noticed. Out of my love for Tim I have gotten good at all these virtues and use them with everyone else I have relationships with. My mom has said she's proud of the woman I have become. My friend that I made up with when I started dating Tim after a long time of not contacting her said she was so happy because of how I changed in such a good way. I notice also, when Tim and I have an disagreement, I practice patients and listen, I control my temper and try to not say anything to hurt his feelings. James 1:19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters! Let every person be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger. So crazy after a few bad heartbreaks after long term relationships I never understood why and how things kept going wrong. Now it is so clear. We did not have god first. We didn't read from the bible. And right there is your guide to love and life. The happiness I have felt lately is like non other. My mind is clear and at peace even with some crazy amount of stress in my life I have been able to let it mostly all go. Although as a woman it is my job to worry. And I do plenty of just that. I am even practicing and reassuring a stress free process for my wedding, because I am hiring a wedding planner to do it all. This should be fun filled, spiritual process. Not something stressful and a burden. I am so excited to marry Tim, is pretty much an understatement.